When I ask Zum to do something and he refuses, I ask for something else. Right now, Zum doesn’t want to open his mouth. He refuses the bit and the bridle. This is frustrating to me but I don’t take it personally. I don’t resent him or threaten him. I leave Zum alone for a moment and then I ask him to do something else. I never hold a grudge against Zum. I have made up my mind not to scold Zum. I give him leading lessons to get control of his hips. I ask him to do something he likes to do. I try to maintain control even if I am frustrated inside. Instead of saying ‘don’t do this,’ I am training Zum using ‘do this’ and ‘now do that.’ Zum is my life partner and I am not in a hurry. I am giving him all the time he needs to learn a lesson.